We must balance our life in order to be our best and most healthy self. When we are trying to “manage” life without balance we tend to burn out quickly.
Creating a balanced lifestyle will help you avoid the crash & burn which leads to anxiety, depression and stress. Commit to a self care routine – even 15 minutes a day doing something for yourself (i.e. yoga, meditating, taking a walk or a soak in an Epsom salt and lavender bath) will re-charge and refresh your soul.
Shift your self perception
During the process of learning who you are, you will experience painful moments.
Rather than resisting or struggling against these times, breathe into them. Shift your perspective so that you appreciate these moments knowing they are helping you grow.
I read this sentence in an article recently and it resonated with me “Feel it, its going to hurt. But every moment you are sobbing, you are doing the work. Every moment you are hurting, you are healing. The only way out, is through.”
Thank the Universe for this learning opportunity, forgive yourself and those who have hurt you and focus on all the wonderful things that make you who you are.
Have and live your values
What is your Mantra?
If you haven’t defined the best version of yourself, begin with your values.
What are the most important values in your personal life and work?
What values do you use to define the person you are now and who do you want to be in the future.
Get very clear on those and write your values in your journal and add to them over time as you start to shift perspective.
Spend some time with yourself and create a vision for your future life. Look at every aspect of your life and envision how you want it to look 1 year from now, 5 years from now, etc.
You can do this through journaling, drawing, vision boards etc.
This is a fun and creative way to manifest a vision.
Create a Put into Action Plan
Once you have brought your vision to life it is time to execute an action plan on how to receive all you desire. Setting goals is important and a huge part of creating the vision. Use stepping stones to get there….one step at a time.
I love rituals as I speak of them in almost every blog. Rituals create a pattern or a habit and create consistency which is critical with self-love and self-care. It is easy to start something and eventually fizzle out. I personally have learned from experience that rituals keep us on task and motivated to keep going.
We all have those people in our life that have been in our life a while, however we aren’t sure why we still engage with them. They are a negative time-suck and are actually toxic to our existence. We dodge their phone calls, don’t return their texts but still we keep them around.
Let them go!
If they no longer serve you in a positive way, if you feel drained from being in their presence, let them go.
By letting them go you will open the door for something better.
Determine what you really need in life to be happy. Usually its the simplicity of life that brings us the happiest moments.
Exercise: host a de-clutter ritual in your home. It can be very healing.
Create a life you don’t need a vacation from
How many times do you hear people say, “uh, I need a vacation”. Guess what, you can go away but you must return. Since a vacation isn’t forever why don’t you create a life that you don’t need to run away from. Make your home your sanctuary. Create rituals in your life that give you a break from reality without having to spend thousands to do so.
Trust your intuition
Listen to your gut….always. Intuition will never steer you the wrong way.
Focus on exercise/nutrition
Start an exercise routine today if you haven’t already. There are so many wonderful and free resources out there to help you design your own wellness routine. If you need help creating this routine, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will get you started. This also includes nutrition. Start a Keystone Habit involving exercise and eating healthy and watch everything else fall into place.
Work on forgiveness and healing
Where you are wounded, where you are hurt, where you are frightened — seek healing. Restore yourself. Get well again. Do what must be done to heal. You can’t be the best version of yourself when you are emotionally, mentally, or physically unwell.
Spend a few minutes in gratitude every day through mindful meditation. Focus on all the blessings in your life and thank the Universe for them. Being grateful for what you do have and acknowledging that gratitude will change your mindset over time.
There are many ways to give back, either through community work or spending time with your friends and sharing this new mindset with your them. Everyone can benefit from being their happiest and healthiest self.
What is your best version of yourself, and how are you working to become that person?