Recovery from Love Addiction – 101

A treatment program that you can do from the privacy of your Home

As a recovered love addict / co-dependent I am able to provide unwavering support and guidance to the Love Addict (and Love Avoidant) as they embark their painful and necessary Journey of recovery.

(please note: it is critical that the specified time is allotted to be able to do the work that is necessary to start and continue this incredible Journey.)

Love Addiction a/k/a relationship addiction is a process addiction that usually accompanies Co-Dependency. Love Addiction is a powerful addiction and afflicts men and woman.

Symptoms of Love Addiction can include:

  1. Fantasizing constantly about love and thinking that love and relationships can save you;
  2. Repeating unhealthy relationship patterns such as toxic, narcissistic and push – pull relationships;
  3. Staying in an unhealthy or toxic relationship because you fear being alone or cannot give up the fantasy that you have created;
  4. Giving too much and allowing the relationship to emotionally and physically deplete you;
  5. The thought of leaving the relationship causes you too much anxiety and pain so you choose to stay;
  6. You experience severe withdrawal symptoms when you leave the relationship.

These are just a few symptoms of love addiction, however, there are many different forms of love addiction and attachment styles so its important you speak to someone if you feel this is something you may be experiencing.

To fully recover, you will need time, commitment, strength, support and a safe space to heal.

True healing can only take place in a peaceful, quiet and safe environment

Please contact us if you would like to design a more detailed program specifically for you and your needs. Below are the critical steps to creating your at Home recovery program that will help you get started on your Recovery Journey today

  1. Surround yourself in an environment that is peaceful, beautiful, calm and drama free. Healing can only be done in peace, you cannot heal amidst chaos. Healing your heart, mind and body is critical to your recovery.
  2. Break the attachment to what you are addicted to. In the case of love addiction/co-dependency it is your partner/ex-partner. Recognize, accept and work to release the attachment. Let go of the addiction. Go no contact.
  3. Create a daily routine that you are committed to. Routine is everything when it comes to recovering from addiction and retraining your brain. Creating a new and healthy routine is something you and your Coach can develop based on your level of commitment, recovery needs and schedule (work, kids, home, ex, family, etc.)
  4. Understand, without any confusion, that you will go through an undetermined period of intense withdrawal and withdrawal symptoms (you can discuss this in more detail with your Coach).
  5. Form a detachment or “breakup support group” of your own with the people you trust who will support your recovery; or join a support group in your area (SLAA or CODA are a good place to start).
  6. Make a non-negotiable commitment to yourself to stay apart from your addiction. Stay single and stay committed to your recovery despite the withdrawal, loneliness, sadness and anxiety. Follow through with this commitment and you will start feeling the benefits. Reminder: stay no contact.
  7. Talk to your doctor and discuss any medications that may be helpful to you during this time for anxiety, depression and/or sleeplessness. You will experience many different emotions during this time. Its critical you don’t white knuckle it.
  8. Enlist the help of a Coach, therapist or a support group to help you work through the underlying issues which led to this addiction to begin with. Most likely you have experienced some form of childhood trauma. You are not alone in this battle. Its time to reach out to your inner child.
  9. Engage in self love & self care activities which are critical for you at this time. Your Coach can provide you with a list of activities to get you started.
  10. Forgive and do not shame yourself for having this addiction. It is not your fault, however, it is time for you to move past the trauma and let go of the baggage you have been carrying around with you. Let it go.
  11. Find gratitude for what you do have and recognize what brings you serenity and joy. Understand joy comes from the most simplest of things. Peace, stability, drama free and secure relationships with those you can count on and trust. Joy comes from pets, hobbies, good friends, exercise, reading, hot baths, watching a documentary, taking a walk in nature, journaling, etc.
  12. Incorporate daily exercise in your routine to increase those feel good endorphins. Yoga, walking, running, biking, hiking, weights, dancing…whatever gets you moving.
  13. Find your creativity. Crafts, writing, drawing, making jewelry, decorating, painting, finishing furniture whatever feeds your soul, do it.
  14. Nourish your body and be mindful when eating. Eat when you are hungry, do not emotionally eat or emotionally starve yourself. Take supplements. Drink plenty of water. Your body is being taxed with harmful toxins and an enormous amount of cortisol right now Your adrenal glands are likely drained. Sleeping is probably not happening. Your body needs good and healthy food, supplements and rest to be able to start the healing process.
  15. Cry until you can’t cry anymore. Just let it out. I promise, there is an end. Until tomorrow.
  16. Meditation. Self or guided. Just be still and listen to your mind and body as they connect.
  17. Spend some time alone. Free yourself from chaos, drama, noise, people and chatter (especially mindless chatter). Spend time with yourself, in a quiet setting. In a place that brings you peace. Lay on your yoga mat and just be. Sit in your favorite chair and just be still. Take a walk in nature and let your thoughts be free. Ask your Higher Power to clear your mind and free your soul.
  18. Feel the feelings that come up for you and do not push them away. Feel them and then let them go, give them to your Higher Power, trust that they will take them off your hands – even just for a moment. The only way over it, is through it.
  19. Sleep as much as you can. Resting our bodies and our minds is critical to healing.

Happiness does not come from addictive actions / behaviors or toxic relationships. The time that is spent chasing your next high or escaping from the pain is time you could spend healing your wounded soul. Check in with that inner child. Ask her for what she needs. Spoil her with the love and attention she didn’t get as a child. Protect her. Tell her you will no longer chase something that doesn’t want to be caught. You will no longer put her in dangerous, sad or toxic situations. You will make sure you meet her needs and always care for her. That is what she needs to know.

Happiness comes from peace, healthy eating, exercise, positive relationships with ourselves and others and rest.

Addictive relationships tax or our minds and our bodies and keep us in fight or flight mode all while chasing that dopamine rush. Although withdrawal is painful, it is necessary to remove the toxic from our bodies and our minds so we can start to think rationally and heal from within.

It is imperative you start the healing process now before more damage is done.

Contact us today to start working with a Coach so you can heal those inner wounds and start your Journey to recovery.

much love – Avesha

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