Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
Although breakups tend to be incredibly painful, even when we initiate them, a lot of times they are a gift. When we separate from someone we love, the feelings can be very overwhelming and most of the time unbearable. We really do go through the five stages of grief: denial.anger.bargaining.depression.acceptance. For anyone who has lost … Continue reading A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
Toxic by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby via daily post: Toxic I read this fantastic article by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and identified with it completely so I thought I would take the time and write a short blog about healing and what this looks like to me, personally. To some people who are knee deep in … Continue reading Steps to Healing from “Toxic”
As if life isn't difficult enough, add dating to the equation and it can feel impossible. Especially in the swipe right culture. Let's just say that with so much "candy" in the dating store to choose from, how can anyone feel secure? This article is to remind you of the red flags you should never … Continue reading Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore
She was a beautiful woman....but she never saw it or felt it. She was tall, had beautiful thick blonde hair, a curvy figure and beautiful brown eyes. I would love to say she had a beautiful smile, but I can't, she rarely smiled if ever and this is confirmed by every picture ever taken of … Continue reading Them..
Many years ago I heard the term "inner child" which I found to be quite an intriguing concept and one that I would have loved to explore, however, I didn't give it much thought and actually dismissed it. After my first divorce, being left with two very small children to raise on my own I … Continue reading listen to that inner child
I read a fantastic article the other day that really resonated with me. The writer was referencing how a lot of us have a difficult time living in the calm, therefore we [subconsciously] create our own drama just so we feel something. Sometimes, life can be too calm and in that calmness, for those of who … Continue reading Learning to live in the calm
A treatment program that you can do from the privacy of your Home As a recovered love addict / co-dependent I am able to provide unwavering support and guidance to the Love Addict (and Love Avoidant) as they embark their painful and necessary Journey of recovery. (please note: it is critical that the specified time … Continue reading Recovery from Love Addiction – 101
I am sure you have heard the term "abandonment issues" at some point in your life. We usually reference it when speaking of an insecure person, or someone who has an insecure attachment and experiences anxiety within the relationship. Abandonment issues are not to be taken lightly, they are real and if you are someone … Continue reading surviving abandonment