I don't miss you...I want to, but I don't. How is it that after two years the only impact you had on my life was negative? How is it that after two years I only walked away with knowing what I don't want in a relationship vs. what I do? I guess its because walking … Continue reading Walking away…
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My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
How is dating like house hunting?
You should consider dating like house shopping.... While coaching a client (and amazing friend) I used this analogy and we both loved it...we decided to take it to the next level so I could write an article on this topic. So hear me out... Before you start your house hunt the first thing you do … Continue reading How is dating like house hunting?
Scars…
Five years ago today, my world came crashing down around me. Its 5am, my husband jumps out of bed and yells at me to go make coffee...I look down at a my phone and there are so many messages from Pete...why? For months I knew something wasn't right, but we had only just gotten married, … Continue reading Scars…
What is love?
A coaching client of mine recently asked me these questions "what is love and how do you know when you feel it?" "can you love many people?" "does love end?". I love her for being so curious and exploring these questions which in turns makes me dig deep to explore how I view love. The … Continue reading What is love?
A letter to a covert narcissist
To the man who enters the dating scene with the knowledge that he is completely unavailable, love avoidant, love phobic and a womanizer with a deep rooted fear of commitment/engulfment and an inability to commit but continues to date women who have the desire for a real true commitment. Please fix yourself! This poor unsuspecting … Continue reading A letter to a covert narcissist
Patterns
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
How well do you know yourself?
Through the process of self-discovery I realized, sadly, that I had not been living my life in an authentic way. I was so concerned with what people thought of me and how other people saw me that I wasn’t even remotely being my true self. After much time alone, in self-discovery and healing mode, I … Continue reading How well do you know yourself?
A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
Although breakups tend to be incredibly painful, even when we initiate them, a lot of times they are a gift. When we separate from someone we love, the feelings can be very overwhelming and most of the time unbearable. We really do go through the five stages of grief: denial.anger.bargaining.depression.acceptance. For anyone who has lost … Continue reading A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
listen to that inner child
Many years ago I heard the term "inner child" which I found to be quite an intriguing concept and one that I would have loved to explore, however, I didn't give it much thought and actually dismissed it. After my first divorce, being left with two very small children to raise on my own I … Continue reading listen to that inner child