Things I wish I did years ago…

But I am putting them into practice now!  So, better late than not at all.

I could share a long story about why these are critical exercises but I don’t feel that is necessary.  We all have our story and my hope here is to provide guidance to those who need it.

So here we go….

  1. Embrace the difficult – there is power in the pain, strength in the struggle and knowledge you receive from lessons you are meant to learn. My advice: learn your lessons the first time and there will be less struggle.   Struggle = success, strength & progress
  2. Exercise Daily! – if you have been following me or have read any of my blogs you know I believe that exercise is the end all be all to happiness or at least the start of it.  I believe the Journey to happiness starts with giving your body the movement that it needs to release the essential endorphins and get the happiness flowing inside you.  We were NOT made to be sedentary.  Get moving, start exercising TODAY!  Take a walk, get on your treadmill, do some yoga, go to the gym.  Whatever you fancy…do it.
  3. Be Grateful – for every single aspect of your life.  Even the struggle.  Wake up and be grateful you are alive, for your hot cup of coffee, for sunlight, a job that pays you, friends that you spend time with.  There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for.  Gratitude = manifesting more things to be grateful for
  4. Enjoy the simplicity of life – wake up with the sunrise, take a walk in nature, read to your kids, cook a nice meal, make a hot cup of coffee or tea and sit on the deck and just listen to the birds, play in your garden, read a good book, take a walk at sunset and thank the Universe for another day.  It is the simplicity of life that brings us the most happiness, believe it or not.
  5. Keep a Journal or two – I have multiple journals…one for my thoughts, one for my goals, a small one that I carry around with me where I jot down ideas, stories or things I simply want to try.   Journaling is a fabulous way to release the ruminating thoughts that take over your brain.  It is also one of the top Keystone Habits (after exercise).  I journal every morning as part of my morning ritual.
  6. Complain less and appreciate more – if things are hard and you are at your end, instead of complaining, which solves nothing, find solutions.  Make small changes (baby steps), start implementing Keystone Habits, you must do something OR accept what is.  Complaining = negative energy
  7. Don’t settle for less than you deserve – if you are not ready for a relationship, do not start one.  If you are dating and you know the person isn’t right for you…let them go.  Learn how to be with yourself.  Figure out what you want in a person and don’t settle for anything less.  You know what you want, and what you are worth so why settle for anything less?  Settling = cheating yourself out of something amazing
  8. Do not judge others – this was and is still a huge lesson for me.  It’s very easy for us to make a judgment based off an encounter with someone.  However, we don’t know their life story and have no idea what their struggle is.  So we make a judgment about them that is completely unfair.  You do not know where a person has been or what they are going through, so be kind and accept them for who they are and where they are at that moment.
  9. Be kind for no reason – smile at the cashier at Target, maybe she doesn’t smile back or even know why you’re smiling, it doesn’t matter.  Say “good morning” to people as you walk down the street to your office.  Compliment someone’s shoes, hair or hat.  Hold the door or elevator.  Do something nice for someone, you have no idea what a person is going through and you might just make their day.
  10. De-Clutter and simplify – you have read this before, but its true…get rid of clutter, remove all items you no longer use.  If you haven’t touched it in three years and is not a family heirloom and it doesn’t hold sweet memories..toss it!  Downsize, live within your means and surround yourself with things that bring out the best in you.
  11. Practice patience – this is another practice I am working on and I admit I am not very good at but it is something I practice daily.  Patience is a skill that we are not born with, it needs to be developed.  For those of us fire signs 🙂  we tend to have less patience and more energy than most people.  There are those with a more laid back approach to life whereas patience comes a little easier than those of us who take a more aggressive approach to life.  However, patience can be taught, learned and implemented.  It is critical to our success to have patience and trust that the Universe knows exactly what we need and when we need it.
  12. Letting go of the past – I have said it before and I will say it again, the past does not define us and it has no place in our present and our future.  If you have learned your lessons and are on the right path you will no longer need to revisit the past, it has nothing to offer you.  You can remember good moments, but don’t focus on them so much that you are not mindful of the present and especially the now, because this moment really is all any of us have.  So “be here now” should be your mantra…if you find your mind wandering to a memory of the past…honor it and say to yourself “be here now” and move on and focus on that moment, as best you can.  Letting go of the past and being mindful is hard and takes work but your brain can be re-trained to not wander off to the past and get stuck there.  Remember…be here now.
  13. Love yourself – madly and unconditionally.  This is a hard concept for some, I know it was for me.  I didn’t understand it until I started a self-love/self-care ritual and I learned how magical it is to put yourself first and to fall madly in love with yourself.  I have written several articles which have been published in Elephant Journal Magazine (love this magazine) about self-love and taking care of yourself and how to ease anxiety.  Read them at your leisure 🙂

https://www.elephantjournal.com/now/5-simple-grounding-exercises-to-ease-anxiety-the-stress-of-daily-life/ and

https://www.elephantjournal.com/now/how-to-practice-self-love-daily/

I pray a number of these exercises resonate with you.  You don’t need to identify with all of them, but you should find the ones that do resonate with you and put them into practice.

Just do the best you can to be your best self every day and you will start seeing changes and start feeling better about yourself and the choices you are making.

If you would like to work together to focus on these, please contact us.

Namaste

15 ways to become the best version of yourself

Being the best version of yourself can mean many different things to people.  However, I think there are key attributes that pertain to each of us as we strive to be the best person we can be, internally, not just on the surface.

When I think of being the best version of myself it doesn’t mean I am always happy or things are perfect, on the contrary….it means I honor where I am at all times (the good and the difficult) and I am gentle with myself when I need to be.

Being the best version of yourself means you wake up ready to tackle the day that is ahead of you and you go to bed at night knowing you did the best you could, even if things did not go as planned.

Below are true and proven ways to shift your perspective to help you on your Journey to becoming your best you!


Balance

We must find balance in life in order to be our best and most healthy self.  When we are trying to “manage” life without balance we burn out quickly.   Creating a balanced lifestyle will help you avoid the crash & burn which leads to anxiety, depression and stress.  Remember to always make time for yourself, even 15 minutes a day doing Yoga, meditating, taking a walk or a hot lavender & Epsom salt bath will re-charge and refresh your soul.

Shifting the way you see yourself

During the process of learning who you are, you will experience many painful moments. Rather than resisting or struggling against these times, breathe into them. Shift your perspective so that you appreciate these moments knowing they are helping you grow.  Thank the Universe for this learning opportunity, forgive yourself and those who have hurt you and focus on all the wonderful things that make you who you are.

Core Values

What is your Mantra?

If you haven’t defined the best version of yourself, whip out your journal and begin with writing down your goals & values. What are the most important goals & values in your personal life and work? What values do you use to define the person you are now and who do you want to be in the future. Get very clear on those.  Exercise:  write your values in your journal and add to them over time as you start to shift perspective.

Life Vision

Spend some time with yourself and create a vision for your future life.  Look at every aspect of your life and envision how you want it to look through journaling, drawing, vision boards etc. This is a fun and creative way to manifest a vision.  Be specific, the Universe can only give you what you ask for if you are clear with what it is you want.

Create a put into action plan

Once you have brought your vision to life it is time to execute an action plan on how to receive all you desire.  Setting goals is important and a huge part of creating the vision.  Use stepping stones to get there….one step at a time.

Rituals

I love rituals as I speak of them in almost every blog.  Rituals create a pattern or a habit and create consistency which is critical with self-love and self-care.  It is easy to start something and eventually fizzle out.  I personally have learned from experience that rituals keep us on task and motivated to keep going.

Letting go

We all have those people in our life that have been in our life a while, however we aren’t sure why we still engage with them.  They are a negative time-suck and are actually toxic to our existence.  We dodge their phone calls, don’t return their texts but still we keep them around.  Let them go.  If they no longer serve you in a positive way, if you feel drained from being in their presence, let them go.  By letting them go you will open the door for something better.

Simplify

Determine what you really need in life to be happy. Usually its the simplicity of life that brings us the happiest moments.  Exercise:  host a de-clutter ritual in your home.  It can be very healing.

Create a life you don’t need a vacation from

How many times do you hear people say, “ugh, I need a vacation”.  Guess what, you can go away but you must return.  Since a vacation isn’t forever why don’t you create a life that you don’t need to run away from.  Make your home your sanctuary.  Create rituals in your life that give you a break from reality without having to spend thousands to do so.

Intuition

Listen to your gut….always.  Intuition will never steer you the wrong way.

Honor where are you are at this moment

Whatever you are feeling is where you are at the moment and you need to spend time in that feeling.  Sit with it, accept it and move forward.  Do not try to push those feelings away, as they will return and wreak havoc in other areas of your life.  If you simply accept and honor where you are at you will move on much quicker than those who choose to ignore how they feel.

“If we do not suffer a loss all the way to the end, it will wait for us” – unkown

Exercise/Nutrition

Start an exercise routine today if you haven’t already.  There are so many wonderful and free resources out there to help you design your own wellness routine.  If you need help creating this routine, please contact me at aveshaempower@gmail.com and we will get you started.  This also includes nutrition.  Start a Keystone Habit involving exercise and eating healthy and watch everything else fall into place.

Forgiveness and Healing

Where you are wounded, where you are hurt, where you are frightened — seek healing. Restore and forgive yourself. Get well again. Do what must be done to heal. You can’t be the best version of yourself when you are emotionally, mentally, or physically unwell.

Gratitude

*Be grateful for what is*

Spend a few minutes in gratitude every day through mindful meditation. Focus on all the blessings in your life and thank the Universe for them. Being grateful for what you do have and acknowledging that gratitude will change your mindset over time.

Give back

There are many ways to give back, either through community work or spending time with your friends and sharing this new mindset with them.  Everyone can benefit from being their happiest and healthiest self.

Are you the best version of yourself, and how are you working to become that person?

Namaste

 

Creating a workout routine you can and will stick to

Morning, afternoon or evening, it doesn’t matter.  What matters is that you get moving!

The first step to creating a workout routine you will commit to and that will become a Keystone Habit is to figure out what works for your schedule and will fit your lifestyle.

You must be realistic.

If you set a morning workout routine but you dread getting out of bed in the morning, the odds of you sticking to your routine are low.

If you have a demanding job and you never take lunch and you join a gym close to work with hopes you can work out at lunch, it will never happen.

If you have responsibilities such as kids, a home, a husband and night-time commitments the odds of you working out in the evening are slim so creating an evening workout routine is futile.

So take some time to figure out where you can fit this routine in and how it will best work with your lifestyle.

Once you have accomplished step number one, then the next step is to evaluate where you are physically and what your core goals are with regards to fitness.

What is it that you are hoping to accomplish?  and what are you capable of?

If you are overweight and can barely walk up a flight of stairs without huffing and puffing, then you want to start off slow with some cardio to get the heart pumping and get your body used to exercise.  Then slowly you can add different low impact cardio exercises which will accelerate the impact of the exercise and you will start seeing more results.  Overtime you can add more resistance and muscle toning exercises once you have reached your desired weight loss.

In the event you are at a desired weight ~good for you~ but need some muscle toning and conditioning then in addition to cardio you want to look at adding power yoga, Pilates, weight training, boot camps, HIIT etc.  Adding them to your cardio workout will give you the desired results based on how many days a week you work out as well as how long you are working out for.

My rule of thumb is 20-40 minutes a day of cardio with strength training or body sculpting 5/6 days a week is better than pounding away on a treadmill for an hour a day.  Especially if you are over 40.  I find low impact, muscle lengthening/strengthening exercises provide a more dramatic result in terms of toning and leaning out your body.  I also think its beneficial to work out more than once a day if you can fit it into your schedule.

Lastly if you are only looking to add some cardio and just want to get your heart pumping for a few minutes a day I find walking 2x a day is an incredible way to accomplish this.  You can walk down the street, on a treadmill, in the park, with a friend, alone, etc.  with walking, the options are endless…and if you tweak your diet a bit your results may be exactly what you are looking for.

There are many articles and websites geared toward fitness so I empower you to spend some time searching to find what may work for you.

Good luck and get moving!

Namaste’

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