Look forward

Nothing good comes from going backwards.  Life is not meant to be lived in repeat mode.

Let go, search for happiness or let happiness find you, explore who you are – every inch of you.

Feel the pain, the fear, the grief and the sadness.  Feel empty, lost, alone and scared.  Feel it until you do not feel it anymore.  Do what you have to, but never go backwards.

Nothing good comes from looking backwards.

“The past is like using your rear-view mirror in the car, it’s good to glance back and see how far you’ve come, but if you stare too long you’ll miss what’s right in front of you.”

Just keep going on your new journey and let your intuition guide you.

You see, if something ends, whether it be a job, a friendship or relationship, its because it was meant to.  That is the way the Universe scripted it.  If we don’t let it end, the lesson isn’t learned and we will keep experiencing the same pain, frustration or anxiety until we finally learn the lesson.  To avoid this – move on and let go.

Nothing good comes from staying in the past.

Cycles repeat, people get hurt, the pain gets dragged out, the cuts get deeper and the wounds heal slower.  Why prolong the inevitable.  Why hold on to something that causes you pain.  The same goes with holding on to anger or resentment.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

Letting go can be magical, if you allow it to be.  Once you have grieved and then healed, once you have felt your pain and accepted your fate, you can move on with grace and even a little bit of excitement knowing that your life truly is a blank slate.   You can start over and make this life whatever you want it to be.

You can start fresh, welcome new friendships and relationships, learn about yourself..who you are and what you like and desire (check out How well do you know yourself).  You can choose to keep or let go of your friends, choose who you spend your precious time with, choose how people treat you.  Doesn’t that sound amazing?

You are the writer of your own story.  What will Chapter One look like?

Think of all your friends and family who are living a life they are not happy in but are too afraid to change it.  I pity them, seriously I do.  Life is so short, why be anything but happy.

So I encourage you to be that person who doesn’t let fear guide them.

Start writing your new story, now.

I can’t wait to read it.






Every day is not a happy one

There are going to be those days when you wake up and question everything.  Where you are angry at the Universe for whatever didn’t go right in your life or whatever expectations didn’t happen. It’s ok.

Moments when you cry while getting ready for work, or barely make it through a sentence without tearing up when talking to your friend or co-worker.  Don’t push the tears away….embrace them.

Times when you just can’t see the positive or don’t want to and looking forward seem so bleek.

Go with it and feel it because this is normal.  This IS feeling.

Even if your life is going great and you are blessed with a great job, a beautiful home, an amazing husband, kids, whatever your life has given you……you can still have a down day or two – do not feel guilty – do not push away the feelings.

A day when you question everything and everyone in your life.  A day when you can’t stand even your closest friends and you barely make it through the workday without snapping.

Completely normal.

It is normal to question things, get bored, look at life and say…what the fuck is the point!

Just know tomorrow, or the next day, most likely will be different.

So when you are feeling bored, discontent, sad or angry at life…go with it and feel it because I guarantee something will come out of it.  There is always a lesson.

Treat yourself to something amazing, a bowl of your favorite ice cream, buy something on Wayfair, take a bubble bath, make some green tea and journal, do an extra yoga session, call a friend and tell her what you are feeling.  Whatever you do, do it with love for yourself.

Remember, we are not expected to be happy all of the time, its life.  Life is a series of ups and downs.  The downs make us appreciate the ups!

However if you find you are sad more than you are happy and you can’t seem to get out of your “funk”.  Then you may want to look deeper into what is causing you to feel this way.  Work with a trusted friend, therapist or life coach to explore what you are feeling and how to resolve it.  Remember life is meant to be a Journey of lessons and exploration.  The hard roads really do bring us to the best destinations but we do not have to suffer either.  If this seems more like a hard life than a hard and bumpy road, then I urge you to seek comfort in someone.

If you would like to set up a one on one coaching session please contact me at aveshaempower@gmail.com