what the f&$k is self love?

I love when people ask me that?   My response is always the same, its personal to YOU! My personal definition of self love is awareness, its being kind to yourself, trusting yourself, asking yourself for advice before you run to others.  Its trusting that you will not abandon or neglect yourself.  Its being incredibly comfortable … Continue reading what the f&$k is self love?

Are you a co-dependent?

Are you questioning if you are a co-dependent, deeply involved in a toxic relationship with either an addict, another co-dependent, avoidant or narcassist? First, lets start with defining co-dependency. What Is Codependency? Codependency is a relationship pattern where a person becomes overly focused on helping, rescuing or controlling others. Their identity gets defined by what … Continue reading Are you a co-dependent?

My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!

My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!

How to manifest your perfect partner

Start with Self! Yes, it all starts with you. Take stock in who you are and perform a self evaluation...ask yourself yourself the following questions: would you date yourself?what do you have to offer someone else?what do you want from a partner?what does a healthy relationship look like to you?are you emotionally available?have you fully … Continue reading How to manifest your perfect partner

Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?

A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential.  When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband.  I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?