It takes a great and deeper understanding of self to know that within this life - lives the story of your life - which is your script that lays out your wants, needs, desires, and cravings or maybe a lack thereof. The cool part is, its your story to figure out. No else else can … Continue reading what does your story say about you?
I love when people ask me that? My response is always the same, its personal to YOU! My personal definition of self love is awareness, its being kind to yourself, trusting yourself, asking yourself for advice before you run to others. Its trusting that you will not abandon or neglect yourself. Its being incredibly comfortable … Continue reading what the f&$k is self love?
Are you questioning if you are a co-dependent, deeply involved in a toxic relationship with either an addict, another co-dependent, avoidant or narcassist? First, lets start with defining co-dependency. What Is Codependency? Codependency is a relationship pattern where a person becomes overly focused on helping, rescuing or controlling others. Their identity gets defined by what … Continue reading Are you a co-dependent?
I am a self-proclaimed expert in the art of self-love and self-care. I have gone from abusing myself in many many ways to falling madly in love with myself on so many levels. I love Self Care! Self-love is such a personal thing that it is almost impossible for me to tell someone exactly how … Continue reading Honor Yourself
When we choose to be in a relationship with someone who tends to have excessive emotional baggage or who appears to be emotionally unavailable we unfortunately step into a relationship filled with manipulation, neglect and sometimes even abuse which tends to bring out the worst in us. Let's face it, it is quite easy to … Continue reading Choose yourself
In a time that seems and feels so dark where we focus only on the lack, the dysfunction and the pain we feel, I find its time to shift that perspective that will help us to find our happy place. Let's leave all of those thoughts behind us and focus on what is vs. what … Continue reading let go of the story, it is no longer serving you
My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
Start with Self! Yes, it all starts with you. Take stock in who you are and perform a self evaluation...ask yourself yourself the following questions: would you date yourself?what do you have to offer someone else?what do you want from a partner?what does a healthy relationship look like to you?are you emotionally available?have you fully … Continue reading How to manifest your perfect partner
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?