A coaching client of mine recently asked me these questions "what is love and how do you know when you feel it?" "can you love many people?" "does love end?". I love her for being so curious and exploring these questions which in turns makes me dig deep to explore how I view love. The … Continue reading What is love?
love addiction
A letter to a covert narcissist
To the man who enters the dating scene with the knowledge that he is completely unavailable, love avoidant, love phobic and a womanizer with a deep rooted fear of commitment/engulfment and an inability to commit but continues to date women who have the desire for a real true commitment. Please fix yourself! This poor unsuspecting … Continue reading A letter to a covert narcissist
Patterns
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
Honor Yourself
I am a self-proclaimed expert in the art of self-love and self-care. I have gone from abusing myself in many many ways to falling madly in love with myself on so many levels. Self-love is such a personal thing that it is almost impossible for me to tell someone exactly how to love themselves, however, … Continue reading Honor Yourself
How to manifest your perfect partner
Start with Self! Yes, it all starts with you. Take stock in who you are and perform a self evaluation...ask yourself yourself the following questions: would you date yourself?what do you have to offer someone else?what do you want from a partner?what does a healthy relationship look like to you?are you emotionally available?have you fully … Continue reading How to manifest your perfect partner
Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
Why confidence is everything in life
“Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.”– Franklin D. Roosevelt Confidence is everything! How can you can get to a place where you can feel confident in all areas of your life? Good question, that is the struggle that … Continue reading Why confidence is everything in life
A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
Although breakups tend to be incredibly painful, even when we initiate them, a lot of times they are a gift. When we separate from someone we love, the feelings can be very overwhelming and most of the time unbearable. We really do go through the five stages of grief: denial.anger.bargaining.depression.acceptance. For anyone who has lost … Continue reading A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
Steps to Healing from “Toxic”
Toxic by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby via daily post: Toxic I read this fantastic article by Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby and identified with it completely so I thought I would take the time and write a short blog about healing and what this looks like to me, personally. To some people who are knee deep in … Continue reading Steps to Healing from “Toxic”
Be who you wish to meet!
Would you date yourself? I have been empowering myself the past few months to really dig deep and figure out who I am, what I want and who I want to spend the rest of my life with. The intuitive message I received is...."would you date yourself?" Chances are, if I don't want to be with … Continue reading Be who you wish to meet!
