Are you questioning if you are a co-dependent, deeply involved in a toxic relationship with either an addict, another co-dependent, avoidant or narcassist? First, lets start with defining co-dependency. What Is Codependency? Codependency is a relationship pattern where a person becomes overly focused on helping, rescuing or controlling others. Their identity gets defined by what … Continue reading Are you a co-dependent?
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Honor Yourself
I am a self-proclaimed expert in the art of self-love and self-care. I have gone from abusing myself in many many ways to falling madly in love with myself on so many levels. I love Self Care! Self-love is such a personal thing that it is almost impossible for me to tell someone exactly how … Continue reading Honor Yourself
You should be your own best friend
It sounds cliché, but as we struggle with so many life situations, which sometimes for us it means learning how to forge forward during really tough times, it is important to be grounded in who we are and focus on what brings us joy. I do believe in joy, whatever package that comes in, because … Continue reading You should be your own best friend
Choose yourself
When we choose to be in a relationship with someone who tends to have excessive emotional baggage or who appears to be emotionally unavailable we unfortunately step into a relationship filled with manipulation, neglect and sometimes even abuse which tends to bring out the worst in us. Let's face it, it is quite easy to … Continue reading Choose yourself
Allow your past lovers to be your greatest teachers
For now, this moment, let us try to understand what brought us to where we are. Let us be kind to ourselves as we dive deep into our soul and carve out a space for acceptance as we recognize each and every person that has brought us to life and to the depths of despair … Continue reading Allow your past lovers to be your greatest teachers
let go of the story, it is no longer serving you
In a time that seems and feels so dark where we focus only on the lack, the dysfunction and the pain we feel, I find its time to shift that perspective that will help us to find our happy place. Let's leave all of those thoughts behind us and focus on what is vs. what … Continue reading let go of the story, it is no longer serving you
My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
What is love?
A coaching client of mine recently asked me these questions "what is love and how do you know when you feel it?" "can you love many people?" "does love end?". I love her for being so curious and exploring these questions which in turns makes me dig deep to explore how I view love. The … Continue reading What is love?
Patterns
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
