Are you a co-dependent?

Are you questioning if you are a co-dependent, deeply involved in a toxic relationship with either an addict, another co-dependent, avoidant or narcassist? First, lets start with defining co-dependency. What Is Codependency? Codependency is a relationship pattern where a person becomes overly focused on helping, rescuing or controlling others. Their identity gets defined by what … Continue reading Are you a co-dependent?

You should be your own best friend

It sounds cliché, but as we struggle with so many life situations, which sometimes for us it means learning how to forge forward during really tough times, it is important to be grounded in who we are and focus on what brings us joy. I do believe in joy, whatever package that comes in, because … Continue reading You should be your own best friend

Allow your past lovers to be your greatest teachers

For now, this moment, let us try to understand what brought us to where we are.  Let us be kind to ourselves as we dive deep into our soul and carve out a space for acceptance as we recognize each and every person that has brought us to life and to the depths of despair … Continue reading Allow your past lovers to be your greatest teachers

My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!

My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!

Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?

A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential.  When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband.  I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?