I don't miss you...I want to, but I don't. How is it that after two years the only impact you had on my life was negative? How is it that after two years I only walked away with knowing what I don't want in a relationship vs. what I do? I guess its because walking … Continue reading Walking away…
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My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
What is love?
A coaching client of mine recently asked me these questions "what is love and how do you know when you feel it?" "can you love many people?" "does love end?". I love her for being so curious and exploring these questions which in turns makes me dig deep to explore how I view love. The … Continue reading What is love?
A letter to a covert narcissist
To the man who enters the dating scene with the knowledge that he is completely unavailable, love avoidant, love phobic and a womanizer with a deep rooted fear of commitment/engulfment and an inability to commit but continues to date women who have the desire for a real true commitment. Please fix yourself! This poor unsuspecting … Continue reading A letter to a covert narcissist
Patterns
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
Honor Yourself
I am a self-proclaimed expert in the art of self-love and self-care. I have gone from abusing myself in many many ways to falling madly in love with myself on so many levels. Self-love is such a personal thing that it is almost impossible for me to tell someone exactly how to love themselves, however, … Continue reading Honor Yourself
Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
Why confidence is everything in life
“Confidence… thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live.”– Franklin D. Roosevelt Confidence is everything! How can you can get to a place where you can feel confident in all areas of your life? Good question, that is the struggle that … Continue reading Why confidence is everything in life
How well do you know yourself?
Through the process of self-discovery I realized, sadly, that I had not been living my life in an authentic way. I was so concerned with what people thought of me and how other people saw me that I wasn’t even remotely being my true self. After much time alone, in self-discovery and healing mode, I … Continue reading How well do you know yourself?
A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
Although breakups tend to be incredibly painful, even when we initiate them, a lot of times they are a gift. When we separate from someone we love, the feelings can be very overwhelming and most of the time unbearable. We really do go through the five stages of grief: denial.anger.bargaining.depression.acceptance. For anyone who has lost … Continue reading A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
