Daily Post: Haul

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This Journey I am on has been a very long haul.  My commitment to healing past wounds from childhood to today has given a new meaning to the word healing.

~Healing begins from within~

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I was tired of filling voids and living my life from a place of fear.  Trying to control my environment hoping that I could keep myself safe as long as I was the gatekeeper to my own soul.  

Life doesn’t work that way.  We really control nothing but our own thoughts.  The Universe steps in, takes over and teaches us lessons that we really need to learn the first time because if we don’t….the lessons gets more difficult each time.

So, although healing from anything is a very long haul, the end result is a beautiful and peaceful life that no one can explain to you or lay out for you.  You have to trust the process, follow your own journey and create your own path and discover who you are in the process.

The haul is worth it.

Namaste

 

 

Daily Prompt: Churn

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Well the word churn instantly made me remember how much my stomach would churn every time I was about to do something I knew wasn’t right for me.

What is that churning?  Its intuition.  Its your body’s way of telling you that you are in danger, making a bad decision, encountering someone who isn’t healthy for you, and so much more.

How many times did your stomach churn and you ignored it?

When you look back to certain unhealthy situations, did you ignore a churning belly?

I surely did, and I will not do that anymore!

Amen!

Daily Prompt: Frigid

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Temperatures can be frigid, especially during New England winters.

People can also be frigid.

There are those who do not allow you to emotionally connect with them and those who keep solid boundaries around their hearts.  You know those people who do not hug with their entire body and they look past you without making eye contact.

Frigid, is a temperature but also a temperament.

 

 

 

Prompts: Radiant

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You are radiant, yes, you really are.

Has anyone ever told you that?  If yes, it felt amazing didn’t it?

If not, it doesn’t mean you aren’t radiant, because you are.

When a woman is home in her body…she radiates.  Its true.

I just found this quote:

“This is a woman whose body is so full of energy and Flow, so harmonized with the rhythm of nature, that she transmits light in the way she walks.”

As a woman we are all born with radiance…it is our choice to let it out and shine or to keep it locked away inside us.  Sometimes its blocked and needs to be released.

Let it out….let it shine…be radiant!

 

Daily Prompt – Micro

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Do not micro-manage your relationships as this is a form of control. Trust the flow, the outcome, the purpose of this person entering your life.  Do not have expectations….relate without attachment.  Enjoy the relationship for what it is, without driving it to be what you want it to be.

This is especially true for children.  Let them be who they are, not who you want them to be.  Let them find their purpose, let them discover who they are, let them struggle…yes struggle (I know that is hard for the helicopter parent) because that struggle brings them skills to navigate through life.  Building life skills is critical to their development.  Let them fail, let them struggle, let them hurt…it will make them better people.

Namaste

 

Pragmatic vs. Magical Thinking..a lesson

During a session with my therapist we discussed relationships, past and potential.  When he asked me what I wanted, I told him I had received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband.  I shared that I felt like I went to a counter, ordered my person and they delivered him to me exactly how I described.  Kind of like when you order at Starbucks and they nail it, amazing feeling right?

As I described how my ex-husband entered my life….my therapist said “wow, that sounds magical” and my response was “oh yes, it was”.  In all reality, the way I tell the story, it does sound quite magical, however, magical isn’t always reality.

So this is why I go to therapy <smiles>.  My therapist says to me, “well that certainly is magical, but let me give you a pragmatic perspective”.  So we went on to what I like to call deep dive and break down every little detail that I considered magical, with his pragmatic approach.  Sure enough, I had completely dramatized the entire relationship…from the beginning of our courtship to the demise of our marriage.  He apologized for busting my magical bubble, but I was OK with it, very much so.  The reality was refreshing.

I absorbed that conversation as I got home and started to really process the reality of the nine years I spent with this person.  I used the pragmatic approach and found that the reality was much different than the fantasy I had created.  The boy meets girl story….wasn’t so magical, in fact it was quite dysfunctional and if I were who that girl today on the day that he entered my life…things would be much different.  Thank God for therapy, self-love and time alone.

That being said, pragmatic might be my favorite word right now as I have taken off my rose colored glasses and I am committed to using this approach in all areas of my life.  I am ready to see things for what they really are vs. what we make them out to be or how we may perceive them may although that may not be what the reality of the situation actually is.  Perspective is good which is why having a trusted therapist or Life Coach is such a blessing and critical when you are working to change your life’s path.

So today I encourage you to deep dive into your life and be pragmatic about the details – ask yourself, am I in reality or is this magical thinking.

Till Soon!

~joy~light~love~

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Patience

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Funny, learning patience and to trust the Universe is my ultimate life goal.  Patience really is a practice and something you need to be cognitive of especially if you are someone like me.  My initial response is to control a process and see it to the end, becoming impatient or frustrated when the process does not go as intended.  When you practice patience you are letting go of control and trusting that the Universe knows exactly what the outcome should be, despite what your intentions are.

I am a fire sign, patience is not my strong suit but it will be, over time.

Namaste