Would you date yourself?
I have been empowering myself the past few days to really figure out who I am, what makes me tick, what I want and who I want to spend the rest of my life with. The message I received is….”would you date yourself?”
Chances are, if I don’t want to be with myself, why would anyone else want to be with me. Right?
Yesterday I was driving to town and I drove by a church, out front it had a sign that said “Be Who You Want to Meet”. Awesome! I love when I get messages like that. They are so blatant but so intimate and personal at the same time.
So many of us ask the Universe for messages and we miss them because we don’t accept these little messages as gifts from the Universe, but that is what they are.
After talking to a friend about some personal goals I am trying to achieve, I told him about my question…would I date myself. He found this intriguing, as do I.
So I asked myself the question and the answer is private so I will not be sharing in this post – but let me just say, once you ask yourself this question, it prompts more questions and is very helpful with self discovery.
This simple question can lead to so many other questions that can then guide you to discover what areas you need to focus on to further develop yourself.
So, today I empower you to ask yourself…”would I date me”???
And then explore the why’s of yes and no…and focus on the positive not just the negative.
For example you might say, “yes of course I would date myself!” with sheer confidence..like, “duh, why wouldn’t I, that’s just silly!”
Ok, yes, you are awesome and you would date yourself, now tell yourself why, maybe list all the reasons. (i.e. I am super smart, funny, a lot of fun to be with, spontaneous, good looking, etc). Then ask yourself….would you date yourself for an extended period of time? would you marry yourself? are there things that would annoy you and if so, what are they? what do you see as a problem area if you were to date or marry yourself (i.e. are you stubborn, a poor communicator, selfish, a bad listener, can’t compromise, etc.”)
What a fantastic way to discover – (a) why you are able to attract but not sustain a partner (b) not attract a partner at all (c) or why you aren’t able to commit (d) why you are fantastic at long term relationships, etc.
We are all unique and have our own relationship successes and struggles. Sometimes we know people who are super lucky and seem to have no issues with relationships and we also know people who can’t seem to get it right, ever (this was me).
They say what you focus on and where you put your energy is what you are manifesting. So, when you want to change career fields what do you do? you educate yourself, study, take courses, get certified etc. Then you start looking for the job, putting your feelers out, creating an amazing resume and then go online and apply for jobs. Therein starts the manifestation process. You are now focusing your energy on this new “thing” you desire and that is how to manifest what you want.
Same goes for a relationship. You attract, what you are. You spend your energy on the wrong people, that is what you will continuously attract.
If you are in a place of emotional unavailability..guess what you will manifest and draw to you? yep, someone who is also emotionally unavailable. Its really that simple.
It is not rocket science and the law of attraction is not hokey. Think about it, ever have a bad day, you spill coffee on yourself and you get angry, then you get in the car and you are out of gas so you get even angrier then you get to work and you spill water all over your keyboard (yes all of this has happened to me).
The lesson here is, the more you feed that negative energy the more you will attract it.
If you simply, breathe…change your shirt or pants, and do not allow negative energy to take over, then you can carry on with your day. Even if you are out of gas…ok, go to gas station and fill the tank and again, carry on with your day. Leave all that negative energy behind. Otherwise you will have an entire day filled with negative things happening.
You can also turn negative things around and make them positive. The power really does live inside of you.
So be who you want to meet. Such a simple concept but so powerful at the same time.