I read a fantastic article the other day that really resonated with me. The writer was referencing how a lot of us have a difficult time living in the calm, therefore we [subconsciously] create our own drama just so we feel something. Sometimes, life can be too calm and in that calmness, for those of who…
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They don’t teach you how to truly be ready for marriage….because it isn’t easy and it isn’t really what you think it is. Marriage is a commitment, a compromise, an understanding of different minds, thoughts, feelings, desires and futures. What it is not is a party, a white dress, a band, a photographer and gifts.…
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We have all dated that person, the one that is never quite ready for a commitment (with you). They drive you to the brink of insanity and then pull you back with incredible passion that you have never experienced before. They bring out a side to you that you didn’t know you had in you. …
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I spent nearly three years alone…. After two failed marriages – I was desperate to find me. The only way I could figure out how was to go deep, go inward and spend time in solitude and it was a choice, my choice to do this until I felt I was strong enough to not…
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Empowerment Means:
This is solely up to you.
Each person defines Empowerment differently as it pertains to their own goals and what they are looking to achieve.
I am requesting that you to dig deep here and ask yourself – “how do I want & what do I need to be Empowered?”
(personal exercise: what does empowerment mean to you? – please write this down in your journal – be descriptive – this is the first step in the empowerment process)
Below are a number of suggestions on how to Empower yourself to be more confident, self-assured, powerful and more importantly to trust your intuition.
There is no timeline on how long it takes to become empowered, but the key is to be consistent and to always be working on yourself!
Remember we are all a work in progress!
~Life is an endless process of self discovery~
No more using the “I don’t have time” excuse.
Exercise changes our mindset and gives us more confidence (this is a top KeyStone habit) – for more information on Keystone habits visit my website at http://www.aveshaempower.com
Exercise comes in many forms, you do not have to join a gym to start an exercise routine. Here are some examples of ways you can get exercise:
Yup, I said it, be a bitch!
Notice I did not use the word, alone?
Why? because you are not alone – unless of course you are living in isolation which I would guarantee you are not.
But in all seriousness you are not alone, you have yourself – and who is better than that? No one!
Get comfy with who you are, enjoy your own company, spend time doing the things you enjoy doing and you will discover a lot about yourself by doing so. Spend some time in nature…enjoy the peacefulness and the beauty of all that surrounds you.
(personal exercise: Grab your journal and go for a hike, find a nice place to rest and write about how you feel. Nature is very grounding! Sit with your thoughts and then write about them)
Everyone, including you, has the right to say no.
So, if there is something you do not want to do or that you are not comfortable with – use your voice!
Say no, confidently, knowing you are honoring yourself.
**Disclaimer: make sure you say no in a non-offensive way…you don’t want to intentionally upset anyone.**
(personal exercise: Grab your journal and think of a scenario where you would like to say No but you don’t – write it down in your journal – how does it make you feel when you thinking of saying no? write that down too)
Seriously, try anything (within reason).
Make a list and check them off one by one (bucket lists).
Examples:
The list is endless really….start making your list right now (journal exercise)
This is probably the most important thing you can do in your life to move forward (and the scariest and the hardest to do).
This includes:
Let them go.
If they do not bring you happiness and only cause you stress, anxiety or dread…its time to move on . However, if you cannot remove them from your life, at least set boundaries with them.
(personal exercise: Grab your journal and make a list of those you need to create boundaries with or to remove from your life altogether)
Self acceptance and self love is the most critical piece to our self worth!
How we feel about ourselves is how others perceive us.
Remember…the mirror?
Put it this way, if you don’t love you….and I mean all of you, who will?
Ok so your butt is big, your eyes are too small, you are too short or too tall, you could use a few pounds or could lose a few pounds – who cares, no one is perfect. Never compare yourself to anyone! You are unique.
(personal exercise: Grab your journal and write down what makes you loveable? start a list in your journal of at least 7 or more of your most amazing qualities and add to it over time)
Remember success is specific to you and your unique goals!
Let’s set some obtainable goals BIG & small so you can figure out with your life coach or by yourself how you will reach these goals (i.e. relationship, weight loss, new job, life balance, work, no work, buying a house, raising kids, cars, vacations, school, etc.)
Set time lines (we all do better when we know what is expected of us and some of us work better when we are under pressure).
(personal exercise: Grab your journal and start making a list of obtainable goals and add to it over time)
(personal exercise: Grab your journal and write down ways you can love yourself more)
Be conscious of the stories you are telling yourself (do not let your “stories” be defined by anything but your Higher Self)
Let go of the past and create a new story (not just a chapter)! Remember, your past does not define you.
Keep your thoughts positive & motivating (do not ruminate about the past)
(tip: choose to have daily mantras sent to you (there are plenty of apps to choose from, pick one that works best for you)
(personal exercise: Grab your journal write down the thoughts that keep swirling in your mind which are keeping you from being mindful)
~The mind is everything, what you think you become~
Making significant changes in your life and healing from any sort of trauma or bad experiences takes time and Empowering yourself takes lots of work and energy to keep going.
There will be times you want to give up, you won’t see your progress (although others do) and you may even feel its not worth it. Do not stop, ever, by all means, have a down “poor me” day, eat ice cream, wallow in sadness but do not give up.
Wake up the next morning….get on your yoga mat, take a walk, make a smoothie, sing in the shower, do whatever you have to do to motivate and keep going but do NOT give up.
This workshop was created to Empower you to be your Best and Highest Self. I have done the work, I know how hard it is, but once you get to the other side, you will see that its worth it.
Love and Healing Always,
Namaste
Contact us at Avesha if you like us to join you on your new Empowerment Journey!
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Whether you have initiated the break up or have been broken up with it’s important to understand the lesson you are supposed to learn from the experience. It’s so easy to focus or dwell on the good times and the things that you miss about the relationship but it is important to recognize what you…
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Letting go is probably the easiest thing to say but the hardest thing in life to do. Letting go involves so many different emotions…but mainly, fear. We hang on tight to whatever it is that owns us because we are afraid to trust ourselves, the Universe and God to catch us as we inevitably fall. …
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