Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
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A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
Although breakups tend to be incredibly painful, even when we initiate them, a lot of times they are a gift. When we separate from someone we love, the feelings can be very overwhelming and most of the time unbearable. We really do go through the five stages of grief: denial.anger.bargaining.depression.acceptance. For anyone who has lost … Continue reading A breakup can be a blessing in disguise
they are not ours
There I was on the floor of our foyer, tears streaming from my face, her face is the only thing I can see...as I wail and scream out to no one "give him back, he is mine". That day feels like a lifetime ago and as if it was yesterday all at the same time. … Continue reading they are not ours
Learning to live in the calm
I read a fantastic article the other day that really resonated with me. The writer was referencing how a lot of us have a difficult time living in the calm, therefore we [subconsciously] create our own drama just so we feel something. Sometimes, life can be too calm and in that calmness, for those of who … Continue reading Learning to live in the calm
what they don’t teach you
They don't teach you how to truly be ready for marriage....because it isn't easy and it isn't really what you think it is. Marriage is a commitment, a compromise, an understanding of different minds, thoughts, feelings, desires and futures. What it is not is a party, a white dress, a band, a photographer and gifts. … Continue reading what they don’t teach you
You may be the emotionally unavailable one, here’s why!
We have all dated that person, the one that is never quite ready for a commitment (with you). They drive you to the brink of insanity and then pull you back with incredible passion that you have never experienced before. They bring out a side to you that you didn't know you had in you. … Continue reading You may be the emotionally unavailable one, here’s why!
I wont lose myself again
I spent nearly three years alone.... After two failed marriages - I was desperate to find me. The only way I could figure out how was to go deep, go inward and spend time in solitude and it was a choice, my choice to do this until I felt I was strong enough to not … Continue reading I wont lose myself again
The Empowered Soul
What is the definition of “Empowerment”? Empowerment Means: The process of becoming stronger & more confident.Gaining or claiming control of your life and your rights.Being more assertive and powerful in your personal and professional life.Going after what you desire and feeling you deserve it.Trusting your intuition to make good decisions. What does it mean to … Continue reading The Empowered Soul
How to move forward gracefully after a divorce
Let's face it, divorce, and break-ups in general, are very difficult to process and move on from. For many reasons, separating from the person we love leaves us feeling lost and desperate for answers. Many times we blame ourselves in hopes that if we take ownership of the breakup we can then fix whatever is … Continue reading How to move forward gracefully after a divorce
– what is it that you need from a relationship? –
Whether you have initiated the break up or have been broken up with it's important to understand the lesson you are supposed to learn from the experience. It's so easy to focus or dwell on the good times and the things that you miss about the relationship but it is important to recognize what you … Continue reading – what is it that you need from a relationship? –
