It takes a great and deeper understanding of self to know that within this life - lives the story of your life - which is your script that lays out your wants, needs, desires, and cravings or maybe a lack thereof. The cool part is, its your story to figure out. No else else can … Continue reading what does your story say about you?
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Are you a co-dependent?
Are you questioning if you are a co-dependent, deeply involved in a toxic relationship with either an addict, another co-dependent, avoidant or narcassist? First, lets start with defining co-dependency. What Is Codependency? Codependency is a relationship pattern where a person becomes overly focused on helping, rescuing or controlling others. Their identity gets defined by what … Continue reading Are you a co-dependent?
Honor Yourself
I am a self-proclaimed expert in the art of self-love and self-care. I have gone from abusing myself in many many ways to falling madly in love with myself on so many levels. I love Self Care! Self-love is such a personal thing that it is almost impossible for me to tell someone exactly how … Continue reading Honor Yourself
let go of the story, it is no longer serving you
In a time that seems and feels so dark where we focus only on the lack, the dysfunction and the pain we feel, I find its time to shift that perspective that will help us to find our happy place. Let's leave all of those thoughts behind us and focus on what is vs. what … Continue reading let go of the story, it is no longer serving you
My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
Improve your life with these simple and amazing Keystone Habits
Let's start with defining Keystone Habits! This is a term I discovered while I was in trauma therapy years ago and by far this concept has added so much value to my life. Simply put, Keystone Habits are small healthy and positive changes or habits that people introduce into their daily routines that unintentionally carry … Continue reading Improve your life with these simple and amazing Keystone Habits
Patterns
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
What is stopping you from being your best self?
The answer is you! Yes, that's right, you hold the power. What does it mean to be your best self? It means living life with intention, direction, purpose and within your own moral compass. Living your best life as you are and accepting yourself as is while striving to be the best you. There is … Continue reading What is stopping you from being your best self?
How do you start your day?
"Every day we are born again" - Buddha There are so many ways to make impactful changes in your life. In doing the "inner work" I have found that starting with a morning routine or "morning ritual" was the best place to begin my Journey to a physically and emotionally healthy lifestyle. Luckily, I am … Continue reading How do you start your day?