In a time that seems and feels so dark where we focus only on the lack, the dysfunction and the pain we feel, I find its time to shift that perspective that will help us to find our happy place. Let's leave all of those thoughts behind us and focus on what is vs. what … Continue reading let go of the story, it is no longer serving you
self help
Relieve anxiety by “grounding” or “earthing”
I have personally struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember. As a child I always had this feeling of wanting to crawl out of my own skin and even worse was the big red rubber ball that I always felt was going to run me over as it continuously chased me. Crazy … Continue reading Relieve anxiety by “grounding” or “earthing”
My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
My whole life I have been strong, independent, feisty and incredibly driven. Growing up in a seriously dysfunctional household, I handled it many different ways. I acted out, a lot and to maintain a sense of sanity I gained complete control over my own life and choices at a very early age. I have always … Continue reading My forty day challenge of needing a man in my life!
How is dating like house hunting?
You should consider dating like house shopping.... While coaching a client (and amazing friend) I used this analogy and we both loved it...we decided to take it to the next level so I could write an article on this topic. So hear me out... Before you start your house hunt the first thing you do … Continue reading How is dating like house hunting?
What is love?
A coaching client of mine recently asked me these questions "what is love and how do you know when you feel it?" "can you love many people?" "does love end?". I love her for being so curious and exploring these questions which in turns makes me dig deep to explore how I view love. The … Continue reading What is love?
What is your support language?
I just read a fantastic article on Goop about Support Language and how to self identify your own support language with the concept that once you know what you need to feel supported you can share this information with your life partner, boss, family members, children, etc. so they are aware of how to meet … Continue reading What is your support language?
Improve your life with these simple and amazing Keystone Habits
Let's start with defining Keystone Habits! This is a term I discovered while I was in trauma therapy years ago and by far this concept has added so much value to my life. Simply put, Keystone Habits are small healthy and positive changes or habits that people introduce into their daily routines that unintentionally carry … Continue reading Improve your life with these simple and amazing Keystone Habits
Patterns
Changing relationship patterns is not easy. These patterns, whether they be co-dependency, addiction to toxic love/people or being love avoidant are all ingrained in our psyche and we literally have been carving out this pathway in our brain from the time we first experienced whatever trauma brought us to this place. Ahh that pesky word, … Continue reading Patterns
How to manifest your perfect partner
Start with Self! Yes, it all starts with you. Take stock in who you are and perform a self evaluation...ask yourself yourself the following questions: would you date yourself?what do you have to offer someone else?what do you want from a partner?what does a healthy relationship look like to you?are you emotionally available?have you fully … Continue reading How to manifest your perfect partner
Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?
A few years ago during a session with my one of my therapists we discussed (what else?) relationships....present, past and potential. When he asked me what it was that I wanted out from a relationship and a partner, my response was that I had already received exactly what I had asked for…my ex-husband. I felt … Continue reading Is it pragmatic or magical thinking?